January 2012
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The paradox of the human condition
I’m starting to build an idea in my head that I call, the paradox of human condition. It’s not really a paradox because it can be resolved, but it’s, for me, damn hard.
We all want to be reached out. We all want to be praised. We all want someone to be picked up when we fall. We all want someone to notice us. We all want a shoulder to cry on when… well… when we are...
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Sexual preference is expressed negatively
I recently realised that the words we use to describe sexual preference, heterosexual and homosexual (as well as their slang counterparts straight, gay and lesbian), are not positive statements, but negative ones. They define what we don’t like and not what we like.
You might think that heterosexual means, “attracted to the oposite sex”, but then, bisexuals would be heterosexual...
October 2011
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STD tests
For the first time in my life, at the age of 29, I got tested for STDs. I think I actually got tested when I was getting married, as a legal requirement, but I didn’t pay any attention. I’m clean. I’m really clean and I have two batteries of tests to prove it.
Why did I wait so long? didn’t I know about STDs? Well, to be honest, no. In high school I had some sex education...
June 2011
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A glimpse of being homosexual
I been straight all my life but I’m trying to change that. In this quest I’m trying to find beauty on other men. It seems I already developed a type (weird, since I don’t have a type for women, or do I?).
Yesterday I was looking at this guy on the street, quite intensively I might add. He looked back at me and had eye contact for a little bit too long. At first I was pleased...
April 2011
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The continuum of love
Monkeyfetish said
The thing that draws me to poly is the desire for close friendships where friendship and love blur together into a comfortable belonging.
That’s exactly how I feel. Every relationship I ever had started as a friendship that grew closer and closer. I’m really puzzled when people say things like “I was friend-zoned” or “I wouldn’t date her,...
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The real use of a safeword
When you don’t have a safeword, when everything you say it’s for real, you can’t shout “no”, “stop” or just scream without actually stopping the fun. Having a safeword allows you to go where otherwise you wouldn’t go. It allows things to happen that otherwise wouldn’t happen.
The most important job of a safeword is not to stop things but to...
March 2011
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Update on all males being poly
With one of the woman who claimed all men are poly I had a follow up discussion. I mentioned that after my current relationship, I wanted to explore my poly side. She said something like “I hate to break this to you, but most men are poly.”.
Really I though? That makes no sense. If all men were poly society would be different, we wouldn’t have stories upon stories of idiots...
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I could be your father
“Why don’t we go somewhere more private?” she asked with a mischievous smile and putting a finger on his chest. “I could be your father” he replied. “Oh, come on, I don’t care about age” she said while resting her whole palm in his shirt.
He looked at her in the eye and seriously replied: “You don’t understand, I could be your father, 20...
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I won't tolerate intolerance
I want to make more friends and I want friends of all kinds: straight, black, white, yellow, homosexual, female, male, transexual, cross-dressing, etc, etc. I decided that I wanted friends of all kinds.
But that didn’t sound round to me… I surely don’t make friends easily and I’m very picky. I started thinking which kind of people I wouldn’t want as friends. It...
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Pansexuality as the goal
I’ve recently learned the word “pansexual” means. To be open to have sex or a relationship with any gender. I thought that was bisexuality, but the thing is, bi is only two, male and female. What about all the things in the middle? Like transgender, transexual and all other queer variations. It so happens that the word “bisexual” doesn’t cover them, but...
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"All men are poly"
It’s the second time when I mention my poly inclinations, outside of the poly-community, that a woman replies that all men are/want to be poly. And I only mentioned it to three people. One said: All men are poly and all the woman who say they are poly are lying. The other said, after I said that I wanted to explore my poly side: Yeah, like all men It seems they are forgetting that poly...
February 2011
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Faking jealousy
I’ve felt jealous towards a partner a couple of times in my life, but that’s not interesting. What’s really interesting is that I faked jealousy once. I’ve felt that it would show that I care for that person.
I’m just probably poly. I’ve never been in a poly or open relationship of any kind, so I’m not sure. But I do know that I generally don’t care...
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Batman
When I was a kid I lived in a huge house that was divided in sections; two families lived in different sections, some were part factory, part office, part workshop and changed over the years.
In of the common windows of the house, one day, a VHS appeared. It was labeled Batman. Tim Burton’s movie was old news, so it was probably 1991; which means I was 9 years old.
The VHS sat there for...
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Don't expect people to disclose anything
Someone recently mentioned on Reddit that he got involved with a woman and after having sex that woman mentioned she was a post-op transgendered woman. Several people including the original poster said that it was wrong of her not to mention it earlier. It seems very few put themselves on the shoes of that woman.
Can you imagine having to always disclose something of your past? Like if it was an...