Someone recently mentioned on Reddit that he got involved with a woman and after having sex that woman mentioned she was a post-op transgendered woman. Several people including the original poster said that it was wrong of her not to mention it earlier. It seems very few put themselves on the shoes of that woman.

Can you imagine having to always disclose something of your past? Like if it was an illness? Like if something was wrong with you? Every time a cute guy invites you a drink you have to recall and tell what might be the worst experience of your life. That must feel like a huge load you carry on your shoulders all the time. I think that’s wrong.

I’m hereby informing you, as it is my social obligation, that I was born a boy but I am now a woman. Now is the time to spit in my face and run away.

What else would require disclosure? Having breast implants? Changing hair color? Not having a job? Taking psychiatric medicine? Having kids? Having been to war? Having been in jail? Having an artificial leg? Having only three months to live? Being jew? By making those people disclosure the worst part of their lives we are destroying their lives, we are stoping all their possible social interactions. It’s not fair. I don’t want to be part of it.

I think people expect that because they are afraid; they are afraid to get involved and get hurt. Well, guess what, you might get hurt anyway. Your lover may die today crushed by a meteorite. Loving and making friends is risky, it can hurt. If you can’t deal with it, don’t do it.

The only thing that I believe must be disclose before a having sex is having an STD, specially the incurable ones like herpes and HIV. I even think it should be punishable by law to have sex without disclosing them (although I’m not sure how that could be enforced).